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What Makes Your Life Partner Abusive?

When talking about abuse in a relationship and abusive partners/spouses, it is important to understand that relationship abuse does not necessarily have to be physical or emotional.

A lot of the time, there can be subtle signals from your partner that you fail to recognize until they transform into full-blown violence or emotional manipulation.  Do not take any step that can make you separate from your lovely life partner.

The nature of abuse can obviously vary, but what is certain is that being in an abusive relationship can eventually take a toll on your health and well-being if you do not do something about it.

Do not blame on your life partner without any recognization.  Your misunderstanding can be destroyed your life and you will lose your life partner. Also, self-blame often creeps into the thinking of people having a relationship with an abusive person.

They tend to start believing that something is seriously wrong with them and they probably deserve the abusive treatment they are getting. This sort of thinking can be extremely dangerous and is often the reason people tolerate their partners’ abusive behavior for years on end.

Whatever the nature and intensity of your partner’s abusive treatment, it is important to understand that you are not to blame for their behavior and there is no way that you deserve the abuse you are getting.

While it is better to be able to identify the signs of abuse early in a relationship, it is never too late. You can always act to take care of yourself and help is also available to get you out of the vicious cycle of abuse.

Of course, sometimes it is not easy to see the abusive nature of a relationship and you may not even realize that you are in an abusive partnership with someone.

Either that or you go into self-blame mode and start believing that you probably had it coming. Whatever the case may be, it does not change the fact that these little things can quickly aggravate, often resulting in full-blown domestic violence or psychological abuse. Therefore, it is better to be able to recognize signs of abuse early on in a relationship.

Major Traits of an Abusive Partner/Spouse

Signs of an abusive relationship can be very and many. These are some of the major ones to look out for.

1- Violent and Threatening Behavior

  • Shouting and breaking things you cherish is a regular feature in the behavior of an abusive partner. They also routinely threaten you with physical harm if you do not do what they say.
  • They regularly slap, punch, push, and shove you for the tiniest of things and then blame you for inviting their wrath.

2- Sexual Violence and Exploitation

  • They try to force themselves on you and make you have sex even when you do not want to.
  • Even if they do not force you into having sex, intimacy with them can cause you more stress rather than relaxation.

3- Constant Feelings of Jealousy

  • You are regularly accused of being unfaithful and cheating on them.
  • They try to stop you from spending time with friends and family and often behave in a disrespectful manner towards them.

Reasons for Abusive Behavior

According to a psychologist, Carrie Ask in, there can be many reasons for a person’s abusive behavior towards their partner/spouse. Below is a snapshot of some of them.

1-    Lack of Empathy

Abusive people never try to consider other people’s point of views or put themselves in their shoes to get a better understanding of the situation. They feel like their partners deliberately want to hurt them and as a result, they keep punishing them.

2- Inability to Bear Pain

The ability to not retaliate every time your feelings are hurt is an important skill to keep a relationship working. There is a bit of cultural programming involved in this. From a young age, we learn that if someone hurts or embarrasses us, we have to hurt them back to satisfy our ego.

Being able to tolerate pain and injuries without dishing out the same treatment to the other person is an important skill not just in a relationship, but also in other areas of life.

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